5 Tips for the Introverted Apartment Renter

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5 Tips for the Introverted Apartment Renter

Introverts have long been one of the most misunderstood groups of people. They are not shy. They are not weird. They do not hate everyone. These quiet individuals just happen to strongly prefer spending time alone and not with other people. For an introvert, being around others–especially for long periods of time–is mental, emotionally and even physically draining.

As an apartment renter, it’s possible for your place to not feel quite like home yet until you host a few guests and show off your digs. At the same time, it’s hard for an introvert to open their private space to others when it serves so well as a sanctuary that shields you from the outside world. Did you know that some of the world’s most successful and inspiring people–Albert Einstein, Rosa Parks, and Mahatma Gandhi–were all introverts? The key is to use your introverted-ness to your advantage.

Be picky about who you invite over
What’s worse than being forced to spend time with another introvert like yourself who is not a great conversationalist? Minutes will feel like hours for the two of you. If you must invite another introvert, try to also invite a third person into the mix–a more extroverted person, even if it’s just for a short time. That person will pick up the slack by breaking the ice and keeping the conversation going. That’s what extroverts do best! Whatever you do, do not invite a whole group of friends. You will end up feeling overwhelmed, perhaps even fading into the background while all the extroverts socialize. You will enjoy yourself more by keeping the gathering small and simple.

Don’t over plan
When you plan to spend time with others, it’s so easy to get caught up in all the possibilities of the day to keep everyone thoroughly entertained. From board games and cooking contests to TV binge sessions and karaoke, it’s all enough to make an introvert’s head explode. If you are involved in the planning at all, do not set yourself up for an exhausting time. Keep the social activities light and few in number so as not to overwhelm yourself and become a drag to spend time with.

Offer a few bites
As an introvert, keeping the conversation going is a natural struggle. Thankfully, good food helps to break up the awkward moments of silence. Don’t feel the need to go overboard and prepare dishes worthy to be featured on The Food Network. Instead, appetizers and light drinks will do just fine. Consider simple pleasures like cheese and crackers, fruit salad or finger sandwiches. Some of these items are already pre-made at the grocery store. A pitcher of juice or individual drinks should top things off.

Reserve some personal space
After all, it is your apartment. Keep your bedroom or another nook restricted for your use only. If guests seem to make it feel like the walls are closing in, you can find some relief in having your own space–preferably with a door–to retreat and regain your composure. The longer your guests stay, they shouldn’t take it personally that you require a little time to yourself during their stay. You’re all adults, right? There’s absolutely no harm in ducking out for a few minutes to catch your breath. If you’ve incorporated any of the tips above, everything should run smoothly while you compose yourself in private.

Know when to end the night
For an introvert, it is especially painful to sit through a social gathering for hours at a time. The conversation goes on forever while you are dying to get out away and recharge. If you are in charge of the festivities, let everyone know ahead of time when the fun will have to wrap up. Even if you do not have a legit reason, it’s OK to tell a little white lie. Perhaps you are meeting your parents for an early breakfast, or you need to cover an early shift at work tomorrow. Whatever you have to say to get everyone out the door at your desired time, say it with no regret.

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